“Forgiveness is more than saying sorry”… this line from Just Friends is more than just a song, it’s a life motto. Today is #NationalForgivenessDay and it has us feeling some type of way. Holding a grudge is so 2005. We are all about letting it go and moving on, learning to forgive people, but never forget and here is why we think you should do the same.
Lower Stress level
Life is stressful enough, and holding on to what Toussaint calls Toxic Anger, isn’t helping you but probably hurting you. When you let go of things causing added stress you can lower your cortisol levels. ”Forgiveness allows you to let go of the chronic interpersonal stressors that cause us undue burden” Toussaint. Plus, the higher your cortisol levels are, the slower your metabolism gets. You don’t need someone else causing that extra weight gain!
Healthier Immune System
Letting go of things that do not lift your vibrations, and give you good vibes is a great way to detox your soul. Since most of our immunity lives in our gut, it’s no surprise that feeling stressed messes with your immune system. Your body is working harder to deal with the stress, causing the gut to weaken, and before you know it your bowels are out of whack, or you’re coming down with a cold. Get rid of stresses that you can’t change or avoid and feel better emotionally and physically
When you are holding onto anger, you tend to look at life with negative glasses on or the glass half empty. But as soon as you let go of bad energies, you feel more positive about life. Your perspective changes and you realize that life is too short to be angry about someone who was a bad friend when there are so many other things in your life to be grateful for
When it’s all said and done, we are humans and we all feel disappointed, or hurt by other people’s actions. Sometimes it’s hard to just walk away scratch free and pretend it didn’t happen. A good approach is, to be honest with your opponent and let them know how you’re feeling. The more you keep bottled up, the worse the outcome will be when you eventually blow up. You will probably leave the person confused when you suddenly turn one fight into a full list of things that pissed you off, like the number of times they didn’t do the dishes. So just tell them how you are feeling and you will feel a weight off of your shoulders.
Who is your grudge benefiting?
Most of the time, the person may not even know you are hurt by their actions. Your anger is not helping anyone and if anything, it’s just hurting you. Your frenemy may be walking around without a clue what you are feeling.
Forgiveness doesn’t have to mean that you’re forgetting that someone hurt you, or even telling the person that you forgive them. It can simply be you coming to peace with yourself and the situation, knowing that holding onto the anger is not helping you. Do as LC would do, forgive and forget.
Alyssa Brieloff is an NYC wellness & social media enthusiast. She enjoys finding fun ways to live a more mindful, stress-free, and balanced life. She loves kombucha, sushi, and matcha anything. Her favorite activities are traveling, taking photos, a mix of Soulcycle, Yoga, & Current Fitness Rowing, not paying full price for anything, and petting random dogs in the NYC streets. Alyssa is also the Audience Growth & Partnerships Manager for Out Of Office NY!